Your elders always have the last say. No matter who your elder is, if they are older than you, one year, two years they have rank on you and you have to listen to them. That is the way my grandmothers all taught us. Another thing is the confusion over cousins. That was one thing my grandma always told us, there are no cousins, you are brothers and sisters and you treat each other as such. To this day our cousins don’t call each other cousins, we call each other brother and sister. On my dad’s side, all of my aunts and uncles have raised us to be like that, too. It is a shame to call your cousin a cousin. So we are pretty close in my family for that reason. My grandmother taught us to be like that, always to jump in and help each other. If you see your family struggling, then you are supposed to jump in and help them. Don’t hold back. You witness this and it makes you stronger as a family to pull together in rough times and in easy times it makes the going get easier when you are all pitching in together and working towards a goal. I see it in our family. A lot of people come back and ask our family, “How do you do this?” or “How come you guys are still doing it?” We tell them we had a good grandmother on both sides and we had aunts that were really strict with us and teaching us, not to let us forget about how to do things. When one of our aunts or uncles get sick it is all of the family comes together to help them. That is how I see it and it will continue as long as our families are like that I think.